fuckyeahsexedquestions

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I have a friend who has told me of her clitoris hurting whenever it's touched. Including masturbation and oral, with and without toys. That is gets sore and she's not really sure what's going on. Any advice?
Anonymous
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It’s fine. People have different sensitivities. She can try stimulating around it, putting something like a blanket between the vibrator and her vulva, more vaginal stimulation, etc.

-Pha


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Can you get a rash on the roof of your mouth for sucking dick too hard? I practically suck the life out of him & he loves it but I do it 2-7 times a week and sometimes I feel pain. Today I noticed red dots on the roof of mouth after doing so. Is this common or is something bad happening? It looks as if I gave myself a stage 1 hickey on the roof of my mouth, just a bunch of red dots?
Anonymous
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Yeah, exactly like a hickey. It’s too much suction. Don’t hurt yourself, you should alternate sucking with licking, handjobs, etc

-Pha


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Hi, I'm looking for some advice or... something. My bf and I had a pregnancy scare. Only a slight one, we both knew there was hardly any chance but I managed to stress myself out so much.. I took a test, it was negative like we both deep down knew.. But now, I seem to be struggling with my sex drive... Every time we get built up I kind of panic and I guess in a way don't want it. I'm so scared now for some reason! What do I do??? I love sex with my lover. I need to push this thought away!
Anonymous
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It’s normal, it will come back, give it time. You can also try to use different contraception methods that may make you feel more secure.

-Pha


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Hey I have a question about my boyfriend's penis. He's uncircumcised and he has a lot of pain if his foreskin is pulled back even by a tiny amount which makes it very difficult for me to give him pleasure. I'm just wondering if this is a common thing and if its something that can be fixed? I feel so bad when I hurt him :(
Anonymous
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It may be because of smegma that glued his foreskin to his shaft. It may be something else. Either way, he should see a doctor.

-Pha


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could you possibly recommend a sex education book that mentions myths about sex !! and also one talks about how you're not supposed to bleed during your first time??? sorry if im being far too specific i appreciate your help thank you!!!
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For AFAB people I always recommend Our Bodies, Ourselves. It is so amazing.


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I have very little bottom dysphoria and no sexual issues, can I still be transgender?
Anonymous
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Of course. Being trans simply means you don’t identity as the gender (or solely as the gender) you were assigned at birth.

Best,
Mo


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Cisf I've been having a really hard time getting wet. I don't want to resort to porn cuz I want to be in the moment with my bf, and we use lube but it still hurts me. Sometimes after sex, an hour later I get really wet it's like a delayed reaction :/
Anonymous
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Sounds to me like you may like more foreplay! Try using toys, or more kissing and touching, or oral (or whatever you like really). Some folks need more time warming up and that’s alright! Try longer foreplay and see if that helps.

Best,
Mo


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I have a really small clit, what does that mean in terms of sex and pleasure?
Anonymous
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That depends on who you ask. Some recent studies suggest that folks with smaller clits may have a hard time getting off. But other studies don’t support that. With that being said, the biggest difference is it may be harder for a partner to locate your clit which can make things frustrating. My biggest suggestion is to talk your partner(s) through where you like to be touched and how. Which means first you should explore yourself!

Hope this helps,
Mo


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First of all, I am black thank you. I do not use aave & I get shit for it all the time. You're stereotyping all black people into this category. I was born in Africa & grew up in Europe w/ a whole group of cultures & then moved to the United States. I'm not trying to argue with you or start shit cause I love this blog but it would be offensive if I said "gays love showtunes." The fact is fuckboy is slang in the same way that 'ya'll' is a part of southern American vernacular but it's still slang
Anonymous
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Aave= African American vernacular English. Since you’re not African American than aave isn’t apart of your ethnic culture so I don’t really expect you to use it or understand it. But that aside I never said all black ppl use aave, I said aave is apart of black culture. I should have specified black American culture but oh well.

At any rate aave isn’t just slang in the same way that Caribbean Creole English isn’t slang. Google and read before coming back because you’re clearly uneducated on the subject. This isn’t an argument. You can’t argue someone’s culture with them. And since you’re clearly not looking to learn, this conversation can be done.

Best,
Mo

Ps now I really am finished with this convo on this blog. If folks wanna continue hit me up on morganisbrown.tumblr.com


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Is there any legitimate reason why 'men who have sex with other men' can't donate blood/plasma? Or is it just more societal homophobia?
Anonymous
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It’s homophobia. This rule started during the aids crisis although it’s ridiculous because 1. Anyone can get hiv/aids. 2. They test and screen all the blood before they use it anyway.

So no there’s no real reason besides homophobia.

-Mo