fuckyeahsexedquestions

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cis female, i just turned 18 and got a vibrator but i live with my parents/sisters and im afraid that they'll hear it when i use it. if i use it in my downstairs bedroom will they be able to hear it upstairs?
Anonymous
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Depends on what kind of vibrator it is. As long as it’s not something super strong/loud you should be okay. Just cut on the tv or radio to help with the sound if you’re worried. 

-Mo


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I'm freaking out. In the last month or so, I recently started having regular sex with my boyfriend and was a virgin before him. Due to medical complications, his doctor says his chances of conceiving are very low, almost negligible. He's tried to have a baby in the past but it didn't happen, so we're not as careful as we should be. My period is a week late; he says not to worry cause when you start having sex, it can delay your period a few days. But a whole week?! Is he right? When can I test?
Anonymous
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If you don’t get your period in the next two weeks you should take a pregnancy test!

-Mo

I have a friend, both of her parents thought they were sterile due to medical conditions, until they got pregnant with their first child. NEVER rely on a medical condition causing your chances to conceive to be very low because it is really unreliable.

-FYSE


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I've been thinking about maybe working as a Doula, but I have no idea how to go about that. Google searches are just coming up with a bunch of online doula certification places, which I'm not into. Can you tell me a little about the process you went through/are going through?
Anonymous
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I have a post!

There are a few organizations that give doula certifications. What I’d do is research your area for doulas, doula organizations, birthing centers, midwife organizations, or doula training. It can be difficult to find training in your area and it can be costly to go all over the place to try and find the right training. For example, there’s a doula organization in my town and a birthing center in the next town over. I follow both of them on facebook and other social media so I found out there was a DONA International training in the next town over later this year. I then went to the DONA International website and found a list of things you need to do get certification through them: 
(http://www.dona.org/PDF/Birth+Doula_steps+to+cert_website_07-13.pdf) From there I just went down the list and found a free nursing class online that counted, I got in touch with multiple local places that do birting classes and found one that was DONA certified and that they’d let me participate for free. If you need any help finding natural birthing/midwife/doula resources in your area I’d be happy to search for you.

Some Doulas are able to work without certification, in my town this would be really difficult and certification opens up many different resources like working with the birthing center.

For a list of Doula certification organizations visit this site

-FYSE


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I know all the benefits of a doula, and I'm sure it'd be great for me because I'm very anxious about my pregnancy. However, I live in France where doulas are extremely, extremely rare, and I've done everything I could but there aren't any in my area. What could I do to replace them, to relax and get support?
Anonymous
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I did a little digging and was surprised to find that there were only a little over 100 doulas in France. There are a couple of sites where you can get ahold of the few doulas in France and some may be able to travel to where you are:

http://doulas.info/en/

http://www.european-doula-network.org/doula/members/france.php

Baring that, I’d suggest finding a midwife. If you can look for midwives in your particular area they may know resources in your area that can help out. Here’s some sites about midwives and france

http://www.midwiferytoday.com/international/france.asp

http://www.unfpa.org/sowmy/resources/docs/background_papers/13_TeurnierF_MidwiferyFrance_ENG.PDF

Also, birth centers are a good resource. It seems there are also equally few birth centers, but you may be able to find something.

-FYSE


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cis male, gay and i usually am on the 'giving' end of anal intercourse. my question is about female condoms. are they safe for anal usage? what about comfort? this is more so with a long term exclusive relationship, so STIs aren't really a worry (both having been tested of course!) whats the research say? also are there better words than top/bottom or giver/receiver for gay sex, ones that imply less power play kinda thing? thanks!!! :)
Anonymous
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Yes they’re safe for anal usage. Some folks do mention that they’re uncomfortable or slip. My suggestion is to try it out and see if it works for you! Here’s some more info http://www.aidsmap.com/Female-condoms-for-anal-sex/page/1746303/

I haven’t heard of much other lingo that removes the power play you mention. A lot of that is because folks often arbitrarily assign a difference in power dynamic between the person being penetrated and the person penetrating. Followers any ideas?

Best,

-Mo


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Is it possible for a couple with no experience with other people to have/contract STDs or STIs from each other, or to be carriers? 17 y/o cis male and female
Anonymous
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Certain STIs can be passed down from either birth or during breast feeding if the person giving birth has an untreated STI during pregnancy, some from sexual intimate contact (but not necessarily intercourse) such as kissing, genital touching, etc, some from needle sharing, some from blood transfusions. 

So long story short yes it’s possible. If none of the above apply to you than no it’s not possible. Basically if neither of you have an STI than you can’t get one from one another. 

-Mo


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In the US, would a 16 year old girl be labeled a sex offender (for child porn) if she was coerced into sending sexual pictures of herself to an older man?
Anonymous
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No. The older man would be held responsible for coercing a child. That’s a form of sexual violation and the fault would be on the adult in this situation. 

best,

-Mo


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Anon who asked about not being able to be fingered. Thanks for the advice, but his fingernails are filed as far down as they can be and he's got fresh tattoos to take care of so his hands are always clean and stuff. I don't think that he's making tears. He actually cannot get his fingers in past like the first half inch. It just won't go in, but his penis, which is way bigger and thicker goes in just fine. I'm thinking it might be something psychological on my end that has me tightening up.
Anonymous
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It could definitely be something psychological! Usually vaginal pain or not being able to stimulate the vagina has to do with not being aroused enough. It could be that intercourse arouses you more. Is there anything you do before intercourse that you don’t do before fingering that could be arousing you more? Try to copy your routine for interourse and apply it to fingering. Did you ever have a bad experience with fingering? That could cause nervousness and your muscles to clench. It can become a self fulfilling prophecy, “oh fingering has hurt in the past, I’m nervous it’s going to hurt again.” then your muscles clench up because your nervous so it’s painful again. Are you able to masturbate fine? Maybe have your partner watch you masturbate so they can copy your routine. Other than that here’s my advice for Using your hands to please your partner, maybe something there will help you out.

-FYSE