fuckyeahsexedquestions

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Hello! My sex-educator partner and I have started a queer sex education and advice blog and would love if you could help us spread the news! We are queer trans people who would like to help other trans and queer people! Our blog is called queersexadvice!
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can you send us a link? I can’t find it

-FYSE


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I just found out I have herpes.... I've only ever been with one guy.. My current bf of 2 years and he had a cold sore and went down on me so that's how I got it. Literally the worst thing that could ever fucking happen I'm so disgusted and ashamed... I don't know how to proceed with my life
Anonymous
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Hey, I’ve had herpes for 4 years now, and I got it the same way you did. It was the second time I had ever been with a guy, and it happened during a time that we weren’t having intercourse because we thought it’d be safer. This is actually what got me into sex education.

I just want to let you know that your life isn’t over. That your sex and romantic life isn’t over. I’m engaged to get married. I have a lovely fiancee and a great sex life and a great life. You’re not alone, about 70% of the population has oral herpes, and about 40% i believe has genital herpes. Here’s a good article on herpes prevalence  Like this article states, I suggest anyone who is sexually active to just assume the person they are having sex with has herpes, to use condoms and dental dams and to get tested. I promise you this isn’t the worst thing that could happen, although it can definitely feel this way. There’s nothing to be ashamed about at all, and fuck anyone who tells you otherwise. I had friends make fun of my herpes diagnosis, and they are no longer friends of mine. You will find people who support you. You can talk to me at any time at fysexeducation@gmail.com and also there is a huge herpes support system on tumblr. just search the herpes tag and you’ll find a lot.

-FYSE


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How long does it take to get answers on here? I've asked quite a few in the past and I rarely get answers, I'm still waiting on a question I asked a week ago and some I asked over 6 months ago.
Anonymous
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It can take several weeks to a month I believe. We get a lot of questions and all of the mods have other stuff going on as well. You can re-ask questions if you want to make sure we got them (tumblr does like to eat questions) You can also text/message places like http://www.scarleteen.com/ and http://www.plannedparenthood.org/ for other resources.

-FYSE


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Love post about the Lunette cup. I am a recent convert to the Diva cup in the U.S. and it is actually life changing. It is convenient and a cost saver and has improved my body image in a weirdly powerful way. It's really changed my relationship with menstruation and made it something I feel more in touch and comfortable with! I highly recommend giving it a shot!
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Help!!! I had unprotected sex last night with my DMAB partner. He didn't finish, and the last time he did finish was about 3 days ago. So he had peed to clear the way of sperm several times. I've read a ton of things already that pre cum CAN get me pregnant, but it's not very likely at all. Especially considering the circumstances. I want EC, but there is no planned parenthood within 60 miles of here, and it's not in our stores. Will I be okay?
Anonymous
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The studies are inconclusive on whether precum has sperm or enough sperm to make you pregnant. Do you know whether you were ovulating? Statistically speaking your probably aren’t pregnant. If your period is late more than two weeks than take a pregnancy test.

Best,
Mo


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I'm sorry if this is too blunt but I'm super worried...I'm planning on having sex with my boyfriend for the first time soon and I'm worried I won't be wet enough for it to work. How will I know I'm wet enough for penetration? If I'm a little wet will it be too painful? I was thinking lube might help but if I'm not naturally wet enough I might not be "expanded"? enough to accommodate him even with lube. What should I do to make sure penetration is possible and painless? :(
Anonymous
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I’d definitely suggest using lube to ensure your comfort! Keep communication open with your partner. If it hurts have him stop and try a little more foreplay and/or more lube! Stay relaxed.

Best,

-Mo


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Do you know any books about the biology of BDSM? I love brain chemistry and stuff, or anything academic related to BDSM? :3
Anonymous
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I don’t off the top of my head. Followers?


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How do you deal with guilt about sexual desires? I had a big thing with someone about how my being a domme made me a bad person and I needed help, and now I'm having trouble with finding anything arousing. This is particularly frustrating since having an orgasm helps my insomnia and makes it easier to sleep :/
Anonymous
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My first suggestion is to consider what makes you feel guilty. You should always critically engage with your kinks but don’t shame yourself for having them. Maybe talk to other folks who share similar kinks so they can help you examine your feelings around them. And talk to your partner(s) about their feelings to ensure that everything remains safe, sane, and consensual!

-Mo


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I've heard the term "involunatary celibacy," but I'm not sure if that applies to me. I'm not asexual, but the only kind of sex I'd want to have is not sex I can have for moral reasons. Because of that, I don't really ever plan on having sex. Also, if people ask about my sexuality, what should I say? If I'm backed into a corner, I usually just say I'm asexual, but that's not really true.
Anonymous
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You could say that you’re celibate. Or tell ppl it’s none of their business! You don’t owe anyone an answer.

-Mo


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Im sure I sound stupid asking this but wat is a vanilla relationship I always think of food wen I here this sorry im more educated
Anonymous
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It’s a term that is used to label non-kinky sex or relationships.

-Mo